The Jewish Wedding Now

I don’t have any weddings in sight – my children are married and I’ve been married for 43 years myself. Nevertheless, I loved reading Anita Diamant’s The Jewish Wedding Now. A revised version of The New Jewish Wedding, first published in 1985 and revised in 2001, the book conveys what seems to be a huge

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The Intermarriage Debate Escalates

There’s been an explosion of news and comment about intermarriage in the past ten days. On June 11 I blogged about Rabbi Amichai Lau-Lavie’s big reveal that he would officiate for interfaith couples who were the modern-day equivalents of the ger toshav, the “resident alien” who in the past was not Jewish but lived among

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More Conservative News and Debate, and June Round-up

There’s been a steady stream of intermarriage news related to the Conservative movement. In April Rabbi Seymour Rosenbloom, an emeritus rabbi who we’ve applauded before, who was expelled from the Rabbinical Assembly because he officiated for interfaith couples, was published in the Washington Post: I performed an intermarriage. Then I got expelled. Then in May

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How Audacious Will Our Hospitality to Interfaith Families Be?

published in eJewishPhilanthropy I applauded in 2013 when Rabbi Rick Jacobs announced the Reform movement’s audacious hospitality initiative, and again in 2015 when my colleague April Baskin was appointed to lead it. But the recent release of the Audacious Hospitality Toolkit surfaces a deep question: just how audacious will our hospitality to interfaith families be?

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My Trip To Spain

My Trip to Spain My wife and I just returned from a wonderful trip to Spain. On past travels it seemed that I couldn’t avoid interfaith family issues; this time was no exception. Jewish Affinity on a Tapas Tour In Madrid we went on a tapas tour with Luis Ortega Bofill. Luis was very friendly

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Meeting People Where They Are

Rabbi Elliot Cosgrove, a leading Conservative rabbi whose essay in March explained why he thought Conservative rabbis should continue to not officiate at weddings of interfaith couples, has a new essay arguing that “the Conservative movement should be the movement of conversion.” He wants to “meet people where they are,” and as I understand it

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Widely Diverse Views: Passover, Officiation, Selling Judaism

Attitudes about intermarriage – and Jewish “stuff” in general – seem so far apart at times, are we riding on the same bus? Passover Here’s a timely example, with Passover approaching. The Boston Jewish Advocate is owned by Grand Rabbi Y. A. Korff, a Hassidic rebbe. His wife writes a weekly column, Ask the Rebbetzin.

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Where Might Interfaith Families Find Welcoming Jewish Communities?

News in the past few weeks highlights the issue of where interfaith families might find genuinely welcoming Jewish communities. First, I was so pleased to learn that the smiling couple in the photo, Rev. Eleanor Harrison Bregman and Peter Bregman, are being honored by Romemu, a thriving emerging spiritual community in Manhattan where Eleanor, an

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Change May Be Afoot in the More “Conservative” Communities

It’s been quiet on the intermarriage front for a while; it feels like most people’s attention is understandably in the political realm these days. But in the past two weeks there has been interesting news and comment on intermarriage in the more traditional, conservative parts of the Jewish community. When people talk about intermarriage, for

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